Yawn. So how's YOUR sex life?

Doodidoo. Dumdeedah. Not much happening around here.

I went and got that much-debated Mirena IUD a few weeks ago (and so far so good), and I was all, "Oh yeah, I'm gonna get me some of that crazy-lovin'-bedroom-acrobatics-peel-me-off-the-ceiling action. It's going to be so great! We're totally gonna to kick this marriage up a few notches." Doodidoo. Yawn. Turns out the only action I'm getting is watching Kristi Yamaguchi maniacally whip around the dance floor. (And don't you think she kind of has an unfair advantage, what with all that ice skating hoo-ha?)

It's not like we don't want to have the sex. I mean, who doesn't want to have the sex? We're healthy, vibrant, semi-attractive middle-aged people -- we should be having lots of it, yeah? Sometimes we insinuate that sex will occur in the near future: someone raises an eyebrow and gives the ol' You. Me. groin-pump motion. Never happens. We're both pretty beat at the end of the day. It sounds like a lot of work. And when I do want it it's usually around 10 or 11am, but he's at work, and on the weekends we've got those darn kids to deal with. What's a stay-at-home mom to do?

When do you find time to schedule a little hanky-panky? How do you bring back that lovin' feeling? Saran Wrap? French maid costume? Studded collar? A weekend at the coast? (though Saran Wrap would be cheaper) Oh, where's a less-smarmy version of Dr. Phil when you need one?

Comments

[Cathie]

Oh my gosh! It's like you read my mind. I've been reading here but haven't commented before but now I have too. My husband and I have only one child, but lately our son isn't napping any more so that was when we usually had 'weekend dates' since we dont' seem to have the late night stamina either. I was thinking about figureing out an overnight trip or something away from our son for the first time, because, it's embarrassing but it's been a really really long time for my husband and I. I would love to hear what other people do to keep things interesting in their marriage.

[Jenn]

I loved this one! I have to say you definitely have to get creative at times. We have an 11 month old (today!) and an almost 4 year old. Our 11 month old still takes naps obviously and the oldest gets "quiet" time where she plays in her room quietly to just chill for an hour. So that is one time we have, but we do mostly find time at night. My husband is the "morning guy" and I'm more ready at night before bed. There are definitely times where neither of us are up for anything and that's ok. What I love are the days I work from home and he hasn't left for work but the kids are already at the sitter, so I can go wake him up. What a way to start the day!
I'm sure as our little ones get older it will get more challenging.

[Erin L]

I must say that my husband and I have a fairly equal disintrest in sex. Now of course, when we do get around to it, we always say to eachother, "Why don't we do this more often?". After I got my mirena out in February I was an insatiable woman for exactly three days- that abruptly stopped after becoming pregnant. Just a couple of nights ago my husband suggested a little "friendliness" and I asked if he could just wait a couple more years. I feel naseaus, I've got hair growing places it shouldn't, and instead of a baby bump I've got a 13 pound beer belly looking mass wrapped around my middle. I could not be feeling less attractive. Maybe I'll pump the air conditioning up really high tonight and be forced to cuddle for warmth- who know where it might lead.